“Vika … is a master communicator [with] a masterful understanding….
Both my marriage and my business have benefitted a great deal.
And the “Solve the Mystery” seminar knocked my socks off.
— Tom Esch, President,
Esch Consulting, LLC, Minneapolis, MN


“I cannot recommend this enough.
It’s fascinating, full of learning,
absolutely life-changing.”
— Tiffany B.C., Portland, OR

This was better than 2 to 4 years of therapy."
— many participants

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This acclaimed seminar distills key findings from Neuroscience,
Attachment Theory, Polyvagal Theory, NVC/Compassionate Communication,
a form of Internal Family Systems, and Somatic Processing
and integrates them with illuminating Thriving Life principles into
down-to-earth, powerful stories; experiential learning; and
easy-to-understand tools you can take with you and immediately begin to use

to resolve your “people problems” at home, at work, and in your local and global communities.

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Are you having “people problems”?

Are your “people problems” costing you or your business time, money, happiness, health, or sustainability?

What if you understood what’s going on when things “go wrong” …

and knew what you could do about it

that actually works?

You probably want to be heard and understood. To have the other person see your point of view. To come to agreement without much confusion or struggle. To be able to make sense of other people’s choices and behavior. (And maybe even your own.)

Of course you want to feel secure and relaxed. To know you’re respected, to know your value and humanity is recognized, and that your well-being matters.

You want people to honor their agreements. On the other hand, you don’t want to have to do things that really don’t work for you any more.

And you’d really like to genuinely enjoy the people you’re around the most, and feel great about those relationships — at home, at work, and wherever your relationships really impact you.


Because seriously: there’s nothing worse than a “bad relationship” — no matter where it happens.
Unfortunately, we’ve been taught a lot of ways to “do relationships” or to “communicate” that just don’t work.  And often make things worse. (MUCH worse…)

All too often, our best efforts are devastatingly misunderstood. 

And when we do our best over and over, with persistently bad results, at best we’re left heartbroken and tired. And at worst, we’re left angry, bitter, resentful, exhausted, and even cynical.



The truth is, for a very long time even psychologists had no idea what REALLY makes us tick, what creates or restores understanding or positive connection, or what’s going on when people (including US) say and do things that seem a little crazy to us.

Until now.
Thanks to key advances in our understanding of how stress affects our brains and our relationships, we now have genuinely effective answers to these questions.
This 2-hour recorded Seminar has been praised by international leadership development consultants, PhD Psychologists, Certified NVC Trainers, and highly experienced therapists as the most powerful and helpful they’ve ever seen — both personally and professionally.

When it makes that big a difference for the experts ... just imagine what it could do for you.

Bring the “people problems” you’re facing and in just a couple hours discover:

  • What Creates “Crazy” Behavior in us and others (because yes, we ALL do it), the response that the latest neuroscience confirms really works, and proven ways you can reduce how often or intensely the “crazy stuff” happens. You CAN get relief from the very real, very costly damage this causes

  • The #1 Sure-Fire Way To Make Things Worse (there’s about a 99% chance that you’re doing this), and how to avoid it

  • Why We So Often Don’t Agree About “What Happened,” and what you can do to deal effectively with that to everyone’s satisfaction and relief

  • The 6 Different Brain States that we humans have, and what you can reasonably expect from yourself or others in each of them. (One of the most powerful tools you will ever use; perfect to take home to your kids, too!)

  • Why People Break Agreements without even seeming to care about the impact on you, and how you can prevent this
  • How to Restore a Sense of Safety, Calm, and Choice when things aren’t going so well, right in the moment

  • Why Being Compassionate or Empathetic Doesn’t Always Help (and can even make things worse), and how to know when NOT to offer these

  • Why Pointing Out “The Facts” Doesn’t Always Help (and can even make things worse), and how to know when NOT to do this

  • A 4-Step Guide to Effective Communication and Thriving Relationships that consistently creates genuine, mutual understanding, respect, peace, and thriving … and often makes our dearest dreams for connecting and co-creating come true  (NOTE: Although elements of Nonviolent/Compassionate Communication are part of all that I offer, these are not the same as the 4 basic steps of NVC.)


Discover how to transform confusing or even crazy moments with clarity, compassion, and empowerment … in just a few hours.

THIS SEMINAR IS FOR YOU if you’re having “people problems,” including:

  • Couples

  • Small Business Owners, Business Partners, and Corporate Managers, especially HR, Sales, and Customer Service

  • Health Care Professionals

  • Therapists, Counselors, and Social Workers

  • Parents and Families (including Parents and Adult Children, and Adult Siblings)

  • Singles getting back into dating (or wondering how to avoid repeating what “went wrong” in the past)

  • Teachers

  • Coaches

  • NVC Trainers and Students (CNVC Certified Trainers consistently say the portions of this workshop that incorporate NVC offer the most practical, easy-to-understand approach to teaching and learning NVC that they’ve ever seen)

  • Politicians and Activists

  • Public Planning professionals

  • Anyone who wants to better understand themselves or other people

  • Anyone trying to make the world a better place

Because everywhere we go ... people are there.

(Including us.)

Vika has taught a full NVC curriculum (a portion of which is included in the Thrive Roadmap ESSENTIALS Program) to residents of
Oregon State Penitentiary, a maximum security facility, as part of the
Oregon Prison Project. The Oregon Parole Board recommends this NVC education program to residents who have been denied parole.

“Vika’s integration of brain science, NVC, and her Thriving Life principles) is so impressive,
I’ve integrated key elements of her approach into my own work.“

— Fred Sly, PhD, CNVC Certified Trainer and
Oregon Prison Project Founder; Portland OR, USA

I learned so much from Vika’s [Thriving Fundamentals seminar]!
— Yonmi Lee, CNVC Certified Trainer, Korea

This was worth 2 to 4 years of therapy."
— many participants